By far the biggest shame would be the cowardice.would you consider yourself having been robbed after that?........ would you tell about it immediately and risk that he might kill you for speaking up?.......... or would you keep quiet then talk about it 20 years later after he gets old and loses his ability to hurt you?........... or would you say nothing for the rest of your life and just bear the shame of having wimped out at that one time and given in to a bullys demands?...... ...