As one who has been divorced, I wholeheartedly agree! Fact of the matter is that when one person decides to walk out of a marriage, the other usually has no recourse whatsoever especially since "no fault divorce" is now the law of the land. 1 Cor 7:15 seems quite clear and it really does not matter what they actually "profess." I believe that divorce is a matter for Church discipline and the one initiating the divorce must be confronted per Mt 18 and if they will not receive counsel from the church and try to work things out, they are pretty much to be regarded as a "heathen and a publican" and should be "disfellowshipped" from the congregation so the one who has been "left" will be at peace and have the support of the congregation.
Believer me, the bottom dropped out from under me and I was in a very dark place during this time! God hates divorce but I wonder if he hates it more than I do? I'm sure he does and does so with a perfect hatred. Even though the wounds have healed, the scars are still there.
I am remarried and now serve as a deacon in my Church and the Lord has restored me far beyond what I ever thought he could or would! Once upon a time, I believed that God had called me to the Philippines as a missionary but since I didn't go, God has literally brought the Philippines to me! the Filipina lady that God brought into my life, he used to draw me back to him and vice versa for her! I have seen the Lord at work in her life as well as in her kids and among our grandkids. God is working among all my wife's siblings and relatives in the Philippines and attendance at the local Baptist Church has literally doubled as a result and this pastor is quite busy with discipleship and leading a Bible study in the barangay where they live!
I am not a pastor nor will I ever seek out the office of a pastor. I am a Bible teacher (and preacher) though and this is what God has equipped and enabled me to be and to do. Although I am an andra mias gynaikos (a one woman man, 1 Tim 3:2), I understand that such carries a stigma and a distraction that a local congregation just does not need. I will serve the Lord wherever he gives me opportunity and by his grace, will do so until he calls me home!