BamaFan said:
I'm not trying to get a stick started, just wandering if anyone had the same experience.
Sometime ago a friend that asked me how was my experience going back into a SBC church to pastor. I simply told him that I was more free as a SBC pastor than as an independent Baptist pastor to be and do as I believe God wanted me to do. He looked at me very strange and asked how's that?
I told him that I did not have to financially support anything that I did not want to support, had no one trying to tell me who to have come preach (and did not have to worry that any of my sbc pastor friends would call me either), I don't have to worry about anyone writing me up in a "Christian" newspaper and calling me a liberal (unless it is for pastoring an sbc church), I don't have to worry about being shunned at a pastor's fellowship, have been more encouraged than ever to be faithful to preach the would of God expositionally, to loving lead God's people, and believe that the work of God is God's business I just get to participate in obedience and faith.
Has anyone else had this experience, or am I just blessed.
Please note: I did not write this post to bash my Independent pastor friends. There are many great and Godly men that pastor Independent Baptist churches. In fact I still preach for and have them preach for me. This may shock you, but when I went back into the sbc, the very first words I heard from convention leadership was- "We are all independent Baptist churches that choose to cooperate on some level."
I'm not loyal to Nashville, Greenville, Pensacola, Lancaster, Hammond or Rome- Just Jesus!
Going back to the OP, rather than the bickering.
I would say your experience is the first I have heard like it. Having been born and reared in FBCH and HAC, I had a natural distaste for the SBC. One day, I began to ask why. Over some years, I researched, spoke to people and came to some conclusions.
First, regarding the IFB groups: There are several subsections of IFB (HAC, Sword, West Coast, BJU, etc) that are denominations, though they claim they are not a denomination (the NADD). In these groups, a leader convinces others to follow his pattern through "loyalty," being "right with God," "God's will," and the "Us versus them" approach. Regular attendance at conferences are expected. Money is rarely requested, but sending teens from your church to their school is expected. Each of these do keep lists of churches who support them and ask for those churches to remain in their movement, host their evangelists and engage in a buddy system. So, the idea of independence in this group is nice, but somewhat of a misnomer. Independence in the NADD can be both defended rightly and attacked rightly.
Regarding the SBC: I have spoken to too many pastors who have been "encouraged" by SBC regional consultants to believe that the group does not seek to control your church. When the SBC controls your retirement package, insurance, salary and building, they control the church. Many pastors have told me of the warnings and even threats they have received if they leave the SBC and the cooperative program or don't take part in the programs promoted by the SBC. Maybe it was misconstrued, but I was told what I was told.
Regarding the SBC: I have learned that there are many good people who I would consider friends in the SBC. Joining the SBC does not make one inherently evil in every motive. Many SBC authors have researched and written actual books (not just typing up a sermon) on topics of which the IFB crowd has no understanding. These books are very helpful for a counseling pastor who is seeking to help people, but are mere paperweights to the "Just come to church so I can scream at you and you will not have any more problems." crowd of the IFB.
Regarding the SBC: The group has a natural affinity towards liberalism and calvinism that I oppose. I find it odd that they need to re-affirm their stance every year at the convention. At times the leadership is evangelistic and at times the leadership is calvinistic. They change which version of Scripture they officially support with some frequency. The national convention (according to some movers in the movement with whom I have spoken) is filled with strife and vain glory and arguments over which direction to take the movement.
My conclusion: Both the IFB NADD and the SBC are incorrect. I choose not to formally associate myself with either group. I really like the whole "Autonomous" thing! 8) I can learn from both groups and have friends in both groups, but not be a formal part of either.