A layman…
I start with the default premise that God’s sovereignty is absolute, thorough and not to be watered down
Then, when the question about Theodicy is raised, I know the Scripture says: God is Holy, Just and Merciful. Paul also saw the tension about the appearance of sin and How a Sovereign God uses it
Romans 9:19–24: “Then why does God still blame us? For who is able to resist his will?” But who are you, a human being, to talk back to God?
…What if God, although choosing to show his wrath and make his power known, bore with great patience the objects of his wrath—prepared for destruction? What if he did this to make the riches of his glory known to the objects of his mercy, whom he prepared in advance for glory—even us,
As I was teaching through the Doctrines of Grace, my friend, who was shedding his Arminian thinking said, “I don’t understand how all this works out, yet, but my default position is that God is Sovereign.” I have used his words ever since.