What is your take on gossip???

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I thank everyone for their good humor :)
 
There is a fine line between gossip and the truth. I was talking to someone recently who flipped out when the truth came up and to be honest, it needed to be discussed. This was because the background of a person we were dealing with in business needed to be known. Of course, I was kind of labeled as being negative and was told it was too much information that was not needed. It certainly needed to be told and I told it.

Sometimes if the truth is brought out, it can prevent horrible things from happening. For instance, would you want me to tell you if a roofer had scammed me and did a poor job if he were about to do a roof job at your house? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know? How about a doctor that had a slew of malpractice suits on him that was going to perform surgery an your aged mother? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know? How about a young adult male manager that was going to be around your teenage daughter at her part time job that I noticed being inappropriate, but not doing anything  outright criminal to other young girls working there? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know?

I ask these questions because they were all real situations that I have dealt with.
 
Groupie,

Maybe you want to consider a new church.  ;)  Just sayin..... 
 
groupie said:
There is a fine line between gossip and the truth. I was talking to someone recently who flipped out when the truth came up and to be honest, it needed to be discussed. This was because the background of a person we were dealing with in business needed to be known. Of course, I was kind of labeled as being negative and was told it was too much information that was not needed. It certainly needed to be told and I told it.

Sometimes if the truth is brought out, it can prevent horrible things from happening. For instance, would you want me to tell you if a roofer had scammed me and did a poor job if he were about to do a roof job at your house? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know? How about a doctor that had a slew of malpractice suits on him that was going to perform surgery an your aged mother? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know? How about a young adult male manager that was going to be around your teenage daughter at her part time job that I noticed being inappropriate, but not doing anything  outright criminal to other young girls working there? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know?

I ask these questions because they were all real situations that I have dealt with.
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groupie, Excellent post.........We had a crooked partner that when we knew what he was doing we left the company. The company closed and this man is moving on but the word is out about him.......We have walked in your steps and we have the marks to prove it.......... :(
 
In a private dealing, I had a member of my church, who I felt, ripped me off.  His company submitted a bid to do some ongoing work for our church.  As "luck" would have it, he was low bid.  So I informed the selection committee of my personal experience.  They elected to accept the bid, but they stayed on top of things, immediately pointing out any deficiencies they noticed.  Well, I am happy to report that we renewed his contract this year, as we are quite satisfied with his work.

Frankly, I feel my speaking up allowed my church to teach this man how to treat a customer...a valuable lesson, which, I'm sure, he took with him as he fulfilled other contracts with other customers.

I love that!
 
groupie said:
There is a fine line between gossip and the truth. I was talking to someone recently who flipped out when the truth came up and to be honest, it needed to be discussed. This was because the background of a person we were dealing with in business needed to be known. Of course, I was kind of labeled as being negative and was told it was too much information that was not needed. It certainly needed to be told and I told it.

Sometimes if the truth is brought out, it can prevent horrible things from happening. For instance, would you want me to tell you if a roofer had scammed me and did a poor job if he were about to do a roof job at your house? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know? How about a doctor that had a slew of malpractice suits on him that was going to perform surgery an your aged mother? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know? How about a young adult male manager that was going to be around your teenage daughter at her part time job that I noticed being inappropriate, but not doing anything  outright criminal to other young girls working there? What if he was a fellow church member? Would you want to know?

I ask these questions because they were all real situations that I have dealt with.
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Excellent point. Sometimes, someone needs to step up and point out the truth about certain people, no matter how they are perceived. Take for instance, my recent pointing out of the habits of a ceratin poster on a certain forum. I showed that he was simply asking questions to get a rise out of people, and to get people to disagree with him so he could spout off his views.  People need to be aware of it, because this person has absolutely no desire to share information or learn from anyone, because as is evident, he seems to know and practice all that there is to be known about Christianity.
 
I heard that you are a gossip.

Anishinabe

 
There's some juicy gossip about Guy Beaumont on another thread...... 8)
 
Gossip is great material to use to troll the forum.  I know of at least one person who trolls with gossip all the time. 

 
Castor Muscular said:
Gossip is great material to use to troll the forum.  I know of at least one person who trolls with gossip all the time.
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That's what I said.
 
cave_dweller said:
Sherryh said:
Did I miss something? because I have no clue who's gossiping LOL!

Don't take this forum as the gospel we are here for information and entertainment :)

Also friendships from across the miles to reconnect with people we went to college with or like minded Christians
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I never condemed you or any one else of back biting. I was just asking a question. Why would come to a place for information if you knew there was a decent chance of it being inaccurate?
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This place is divided the way Democrats and Republicans and Independents are divided - each group has it's followers.  A lot of us have been around for a lot of years and many, many of us are friends, not just here, but in real life, as well.  I come here for entertainment, to hash things out, to laugh and catch up with my friends, and to occasionally straighten people out as I see fit  :D - much as you are doing with your thread here trying to straighten everybody out.

 
cave_dweller said:
christundivided said:
cave_dweller said:
yes but even though something is true it is still wrongful to go to others and spread discord. When you go to someone else that does not have the power or authority to deal with the sitution then that is wrong. you are just trying to cause drama and strife
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So I have to have authority to personally deal with the circumstances OR, I'm actually gossiping? Are you serious?

I see your mentality. Only those in authority actually have a right to openly discuss any issue. Is that what you're saying?
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No. What I am saying is if you know something about another that is worth mentioning you should go to someone in a position of authority in that matter so tha the matter can be handled. If it is something of a criminal matter you go to the police. If you divulge this information to one who does not have the ability to fix the situation what are you accomplishing. I am a mangaer in my field of work. If one of my employees has an issue with another then they need to come to me. If they partake in ""water cooler talk" that breeds negativity and strife in the office. yes I am serious by the way
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That may be the case in the business world, but in the church world, that is an extremely dangerous position to have.  When no one speaks out except to 'those in charge,' molestors and abusers get moved around from church to church and no one knows about it.  And that's not just speculation, it *happens* and we know about it - because FINALLY somebody spoke up. 

For instance, you have the case of the IFB man who was convicted of impropriety with a minor when he was an adult.  After finishing his sentence, he appealed and asked for his name to be removed from the sex offender list.  You can still find his old sex offender page if you google it.  No one said anything to anybody.  Yeah, he's now at First Baptist Church Hammond coaching kids on the ball team.

I'm sorry, only taking it to the people in charge doesn't help anybody.
 
What is my take on gossip???

If it ain't good I ain't passing it on.  8)
 
Just between you, me, and the lamp post, I don't approve of gossip.

Just between you and me, I think the lamp post is spreading gossip about you. 

 
Castor Muscular said:
Just between you, me, and the lamp post, I don't approve of gossip.

Just between you and me, I think the lamp post is spreading gossip about you.
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The lamp post told me it was you spreading gossip...

....only it was part of a prayer request and seeking Godly counsel so it didn't count.
 
subllibrm said:
What is my take on gossip???

If it ain't good I ain't passing it on.  8)
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I cannot joke about it.  I was ruined by gossip.  If you want details, you'll have to read my blog.
 
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