Nobody in any area of life likes a hypocrite. My dad used to tell me regarding his cigarette smoking and drinking alcohol "do as I say and not as I do", but that type of logic was so transparently thin that I didn't buy it even as a budding teenager. Fortunately by God's grace, I did not slip into either one of those addictions.
My experience with Christianity and testimony with Christ is a bit different than the average fundamentalist. I was saved in a denominational church as a 19-year-old, not having grown up in a Christian home. I'd been out of church for 10 years since the church I was saved in went through a split. I was a carnal Christian. My boss was a deacon in the ifb church that I have now been in now for 20+ years and he recognized that I needed to get back in church. The IFB church that I began attending with my boss was founded by a graduate of Arlington Baptist College (which of course was a J. Frank Norris School), and the current pastor at that time was a Springfield BBF kind of guy. I didn't have a clue about all the different schisms within Christianity and denominationalism, or the beef of independent Baptists with Southern Baptists. It wasn't until a young Hyles pastor came to our church that I was introduced to that branch in the family tree.
. I was trained in a scientific background to think critically, but with my zeal and eagerness to grow in the Lord I trusted some of the baggage associated with mild legalism for time. But those instincts of critical thinking skills kicked in and I began to question what it meant to be a Christian and by His grace veered away from that form of thinking. That, coupled with a second pastor from Hyles Anderson who was older and wiser and more mature in things, led me away from the kool-aid. I remember 15 years ago having a conversation with him about Bob Gray Texas, and Big Bobs' usage of the word "whore" in relation to women wearing britches. I kindly and respect we told my pastor I would be the first person out the door if I was subjected to preaching like that in my church. He understood, and completely agreed. Unfortunately, there are too many stories like yours, where people were browbeaten and pushed away from Christianity.